Today's mom thought

Whenever I am awake, and maybe asleep too! I need to be teaching by example. I need to use integrity, patience, truthfulness and respect. Even when I am breaking up a physical fight or cleaning up a purposefully broken toy. I need to drink water, breathe deeply and take time to pray. Thank you God for the challenges that force me to be creative, thank you for the fights that give me a chance to teach conflict resolution, thank you for the messes so I can excel in teaching how to keep a clean home and thank you for a nursing baby who gives me time to sit and write.

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